I'm sure you all have seen the delicious spanking movie The Secretary. In it, Maggie Gylenhaal plays Lee Hollaway, the socially awkward submissive secretary to James Spader. She's a cutter. He's a spanko. He converts her to the spanking side, which is seen as an improvement.
I'm just curious if there are any spanko cutters out there? I'm wondering if it's a similar fetish to spanking? Is there a sexual aspect to cutting, or solely an emotional release?
Two dancers from my company were cutters, but it's a big secret, so I don't feel comfortable asking since they haven't directly shared with me. (We've seen the neat little scars while changing in the dressing room). Dancers are born masochists-- and yes, I have several spanko dancer books in my brain!
If you have any insight, or even just want to ruminate with me, please comment!
You know, I can see how going from cutting to spanking is plausible. I am not a cutter, tried a few times as a teenager, but was always scared it would hurt too much and be too permanent. Glad I don't do that anymore.
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking they're similar too, but just wanted to hear MORE about it... What made you want to try? Did you get excited about it? Feel shameful/dirty? Or was it more of a self-punishment kind of thing?
DeleteI was very depressed, lonely, and unhappy as a teenager, and just wanted to see if I could feel. Which I did. I kept carving a word into my forearm, Sorrow. Today I can't see it anymore. And as it turns out, I am a spanko, so maybe it really is a trait...
DeleteI know someone who was a cutter and is now a spanko. The person is trying to avoid being a cutter, but loves erotic spanking.
ReplyDeletemmm... wonder if cutting was erotic in any way?
DeleteThis is a fascinating question Renee. I've never cut so can't answer but it has me wondering about possible similarities between the two. For eg: stress relief through a certain pain? Or from a more ritualistic side of things? I can see 'why' Julia, because of what she explained in her comment, did this once. It seems to be to be similar in terms of having a form of release.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who is a cutter but we have never fully talked about it but I sense 'something' in her that is very similar to me. I couldn't tell you what that is though, it's just a feeling I have. Sorry that might not make much sense.
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Yes, I have the same feeling as you. Just trying to see if it proves out... thanks for ruminating with me.
DeleteAlthough im not a cutter, i do enjoy being cut by my Master and for me its a 'high' and yes perhaps very much interwined with sexual feelings...for me personally its the blood and the actual sharpness as the knife cuts, its an adrenilin rush.
ReplyDeleteA form of release..yes definitley can identify with that.
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Ah! Thank you, Tori! You confirmed my idea about it. Is it something you ever long for? masturbate to?
DeleteI crave it at times for the high it gives me but no its not something i have masturbated to.
DeleteI have a friend who cuts and she says it is an emotional release to her, kind of like how a person feels when they get done with a massage. She says she feels calmer. We are pretty open about her cutting (I think she confides because she knows I won't judge) and she has never made it sound like there is any sexual ties to it.
ReplyDeleteThat makes sense - an endorphin response kind of thing. Thank you!
DeleteBe very careful with the line of questioning as far as sensitivity to the subject is concerned. Many cutters suffer from deep emotional pain. Often it's impossible to identify what it is. You cut to release that pain. You can point to it and say there is my pain. It can release the pent up anxiety and depression that they feel. It is similar to spanking in that it gives a rush if endorphins that make you feel so much better and free for awhile. I've known many cutters who are spankos. However, there is no sexual feelings with the cutting.
ReplyDeleteThen there is another kind of cutting. The kind that is exciting and risky. The kind that has the edge of danger & living on the edge. That kind of cutting is absolutely sexual.
Aha! Thank you for helping me suss out those differences. That makes perfect sense. Very helpful!
DeleteI think Sassy Chassy has pretty much explained it. Personally, it was for emotional relief, translating emotional pain into something physical that became calming for a while. I also think this type of cutting made me feel dirty because of social stigma attached to it.
ReplyDeleteIs the kind of cutting that's sexual something like knife play? I can sort of understand the adrenalin rush when drawing blood, as Tori has mentioned and maybe heightened senses by feeling the sharpness of the knife.
Thank you, Pao. I guess I was thinking about the social stigma thing with my question. What I'm wondering is if this isn't something that brings people pleasure and should be brought out of the closet, same as spanking? I had so much shame attached to spanking and now i feel so liberated. Maybe it would be the same if cutting turned into knife play and became something fun and sexual?
DeleteI think I see where you're coming from, though it is hard for me to visualise cutting for temporary emotional relief not being negative due to the underlying issues it might hide.
ReplyDeleteHowever, if it's like knife play, then it's a whole art form in itself. I think if it is associated to pleasure and there is a community interested in it, it's easier for it to be brought out of the closet. So it's something like the movie "Crash"?
Hmm, so I never saw Crash, but now I think I should. Yeah, I guess I'm thinking maybe knife play is the healthy form of cutting?
DeleteAnytime shame is involved I think it twists a desire or urge into something ugly, that perhaps doesn't need to be...