Wednesday, April 16, 2014

How Important is After Care? What does it mean to you?

Today is another Spanking Round Table Discussion, sponsored by Spanking Romance Reviews.  

The topic today is Aftercare.

I have a whomping headache, so I'm hoping I can put my thoughts together in a way that makes sense.  

I wrote about aftercare a bit in my post "Of two minds about a spanking". I had experienced what you might call "sub drop" after a few spankings that had a more disciplinary feel to them.  The first time, I thought it was because we did not have sex afterward, but then it happened again even when we had.  My friend Emily Tilton suggested more after care and I think she was absolutely right. 

Upon reflection, it seemed like part of the problem was that my husband and I don't really practice DD, so suddenly dabbling in discipline without the structure in place to deal with the emotional needs that may be more present left me adrift.  Usually the mind-melting orgasm from the post-spanking sex is the only kind of aftercare I require.

Of course, there's a reason the term "sub-drop" exists, coming from the BDSM culture, so it may not be related to discipline, but rather is about the vulnerability resulting from submitting to pain and/or humiliation at the hands of your partner, or even just a chemical drop from endorphin release, etc.

Spanking of any kind forms a bond and aftercare can solidify it--it's the affirmation of love, tenderness after the infliction of pain and assertion of dominance. It helps us feel safe. Without it, you can feel like an egg without a shell.

I think emotional context of a spanking is important for understanding what kind of aftercare might be necessary. Was it disciplinary? Was it particularly humiliating? Did it stretch the recipient's boundaries in some way?  If so, the after care has to be there to meet any emotional reaction that might emerge.

Of course, if the spanking was for foreplay, the aftercare is rather obvious. :)  I think in our case, things get blurred-- it's pretend discipline, or it's about a real annoyance but it's supposed to be foreplay--and then my emotions get tangled and I will need to be held and reassured or at least teased back into lightness. 

How about you?  Are there different sorts of aftercare you require?  Have you had an aftercare fail like me?  Please leave your comments below, and read all the Round Table Participants' thoughts on the topic!


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Monday, April 14, 2014

How the heck do you co-write a book? Natasha Knight asks all...

Natasha Knight is interviewing me, Casey McKay and Katherine Deane about our process for co-writing The Winter Storm.  Come check it out!



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Friday, April 11, 2014

Sometimes she just needs a spanking... #SatSpanks mafia spanking story

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Today's excerpt is from The Bossman, my mafia spanking story. It hit the top 100 for BDSM on Amazon last week (only for a day, but I'm still counting it).  It was originally categorized in romance, where I didn't stand a chance of hitting top 100, but my publisher switched it over so I could vainly add the little feather to my cap. :)

In the following excerpt, Sophie has just behaved rudely at a Family BBQ (yes, Family with a capital "F"). She had a hard time seeing her father's mafia clan, blaming them for his death. Joey makes a judgement call and decides to spank her, but they are such a new couple, he is not certain how she'll take it...

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He grabbed her around the waist and hauled her off her feet, not surprised when she thrashed and kicked. He carried her into the bedroom, stood her on her feet, and reached down to unbutton her jeans. Her breathing was heavy but she didn’t move to stop him. Maybe it was just because he was looking for it, but he thought he sensed complicity, like she wanted to be forced, to have her will taken away from her this way. He pulled down the jeans and panties and still received no protest. He pushed her torso down on the bed. She turned her head to the side with an angry expression but she lay perfectly still for him.  
Spanking with his hand did not seem to match the intensity of her emotions. It was not that he thought she deserved the belt. Hell, he hadn’t planned on punishing her at all. It was that she seemed to need it. As he wrapped the buckle end of the leather belt around his fist, he prayed he wasn’t making a huge mistake.

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The Bossman


Sophie Palazzo steered clear of the mafia after her father's involvement ended with his murder. Fifteen years later, Joey La Torre, the Don's brother himself, shows up unannounced at her massage studio and wheedles his way into a date. She has no interest in aggressive, macho men like Joey, or so she tries to tell herself, but her body just doesn't get the message. When Joey takes her in hand with a firm bare-bottomed spanking, she ought to be furious, instead, she's aroused. As she explores her physical desires to be dominated, she tries to keep Joey at arm's length emotionally.

Joey knows he wants Sophie for keeps from the moment he walks into her life. She is hot, classy and full of fire, even though submission turns her on. But his involvement in the mafia is a hard limit for her, bringing to conflict his own dedication to the Family, the code of silence and his relationship with his older brother. Can he reconcile his duty to the organization and his growing need for Sophie to remain in his life permanently? 


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"This was a fantastic and gripping read which demonstrates that Renee Rose's storytelling just gets better and better."  --Spanking Romance Reviews

"I've never read a spanking book that went so deep....Renee Rose writes spanking love stories, beautifully."    --Cariad's Sizzling Pages

"The Bossman was a rollercoaster that I did not want to get off"  --Mad in Wonderland Reviews
"The Bossman is an erotic mafia romance that should not be missed by lovers of dominant heroes who like to engage in erotic and disciplinary spankings."     --The Romance Reviews


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Wednesday, April 9, 2014

The Bossman Giveaway! Enter to win a real paperback copy of my mafia spanking story

My publisher, Riverdale Ave Books, has listed the print copy (I only have two books in actual paper copy, so this is exciting for me!) of The Bossman for giveaway on Goodreads.  Enter here to win!


The Bossman



The Bossman

Sophie Palazzo steered clear of the mafia after her father's involvement ended with his murder. Fifteen years later, Joey La Torre, the Don's brother himself, shows up unannounced at her massage studio and wheedles his way into a date. She has no interest in aggressive, macho men like Joey, or so she tries to tell herself, but her body just doesn't get the message. When Joey takes her in hand with a firm bare-bottomed spanking, she ought to be furious, instead, she's aroused. As she explores her physical desires to be dominated, she tries to keep Joey at arm's length emotionally.

Joey knows he wants Sophie for keeps from the moment he walks into her life. She is hot, classy and full of fire, even though submission turns her on. But his involvement in the mafia is a hard limit for her, bringing to conflict his own dedication to the Family, the code of silence and his relationship with his older brother. Can he reconcile his duty to the organization and his growing need for Sophie to remain in his life permanently? 


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Monday, April 7, 2014

Trying once again...please help?

I'm sorry I keep asking for this favor.

I'm STILL trying to get my little short Deathless Discipline listed for free on Amazon.

I guess the mistake I made last time I asked for you to help was having you put in Smashwords as the comparison price for free.  I guess Amazon doesn't care about Smashwords, but they do care about Barnes and Noble, and it's free there.

So...once more could you help me out?

1.  Click this link: Deathless Discipline

2.  Scroll down to "Product Details" and at the bottom of that section, click the link that says "Tell us about a lower price"

3.  Under "Where did you see a lower price?" click "Website"  Enter this url:  http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/deathless-discipline-renee-rose/1118866906?ean=2940045734301

4.  Extra step if you're feeling super generous:  if you've read Deathless Discipline, will you leave a quick review?  When it was taken down and reposted, I lost all the 25 reviews I had on there from before.

5.  Accept my unending gratitude!!!

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!

Friday, April 4, 2014

"You misbehaved, which means you must take me back here" #SatSpanks #Anal #Punishment

I have a snippet from my work in progress today, a new Regency in the Westerfield series. It's about a spymaster who attends a fete at the Westerfield Estate in order to catch a traitor. He gets tangled up with the heroine, who is implicated in the treasonous plot. Sparks and spanks fly between the two and pretty soon they end up here...

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He could sense the trembling in her legs and he lowered to his knees, gripping one thigh in each hand and holding them apart. His tongue found her little slit, the tang of her essence exciting him. When her cries took on a desperate keen, he rose, opening his trousers to free his cock.  Applying a generous amount of saliva to his hand to rub on its head, he parted her cheeks and pressed at her back entrance.
“I want to save your maidenhead for our wedding night,” he murmured when she startled. “Besides, you misbehaved, which means you must take me back here.”
“Ohhh,” she groaned.
He reached around the front of her to cup her mons, pressing a finger inside her narrow channel at the same moment he pushed his cock into her back hole.
She gave a little scream but her sex gushed, telling him to go forward.

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